Is marriage really a sacred thing in our stupid democracy?

before coming into force there dowry laws was marriage a sacred thing?

Yes it was a sacred thing 10 years back. But now it has become a money making formula for shameless parents of shameless girls and thanks to our shameless politicians. Not sure about the world but END OF INDIA is near. 

It is a sin to marry in a country like INDIA where the entire system including in-laws, police, lawyers, judges are CORRUPT to their core. 

i have observed that indian LARKE WALE have become more materialistic and demanding than ever before.

 

earlier they'll be happy in a simple wedding ceremony conducted in a tent.the bride will come to her new home,with just a potli(small bag containung her belongings)people will be happy having a non-working DIL.

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now these larke wale want a working gal who brings a good salary which HAS TO BE handed over to MIL

 

Now these larke wale want a lavish wedding in a banquet hall/farmhouse/hotel

 

now these larke wale want good dowry-car,fridge,furniture,washing machine,gold,etc etc etc.

 

 

 

So who's responsible for commercialisation of marriage?

 

And which LARKI WALA wud be wanting to break his married daughter's home,after spending so much money as mentioned above?

Roshni it looks like you are either living in a dream world or does not know what is going on in our society. FYI 98% of the 498A cases filed in our country are FAKE and are just a means to extort a huge sum of money from in-laws. The reason is some parents are not able to control their girls and don't give proper sanskars to them and as a result girls are not able to understand their responsibility.  This generation of girls especially those who are working seeks more freedom, hates to stay at home, does not like to mix up with the boy's family, does not like to do even 1 household task, does not want children and sometimes one minor disagreement results in marital fuss. GIRL AND HER FAMILY is responsible for commercialization of marriage - If boy or his family asks for dowry then why can't they say NO and find another boy? Giving dowry is also a punishable crime, don't you know that?

@roshni, do u know, the indian culture? In past women felt responsibility and that is her parents being good. Now the girls family interfer more, money minded. they need all as legal. Mrg is a blessing not copromise. While in past the relations were based on the boys behaviour and family environment but now they see how much money the boy have. Dont compare relation to money.

@ ARJUN TRUELY SPEAKING FROM MY 3-YEARS COLLEGE DIRTY EXPERIENCES ONE THING I COME TO KNOW IS THAT TO MAKE A BOY-FRIEND OR TO MARRY IS A STUPID, FOOLISH AND DIRTIEST THING YOU CAN EVER DO IN YOUR LIFE. LIFE IS VERY BEAUTIFUL EXCEPT THESE THINGS.

IN TODAY'S SCENARIO IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO TOLERATE THE MESS CREATED BY OTHERS, IT IS PROVED IN A RESEARC. AS A RESULT TODAY WE ALL HAVE CRIMINAL TENDENCIES BECAUSE LACK OF TOLEARNCE POWER AND PATIENCE WE START BEATING OR MAY EVEN SOMETIMES BEAT OURSELVES BECAUSE OF DIFFICULT LIFE'S SITUATION. SO DEAR BE SINGLE ALWAYS

 

@jaswant aka arjun

 

 

 

u had talked about commercialisation of marriage.so i gave u examples of how larke wale have commercialised it.

 

 

 

since u have closed ur eyes to this harsh reality and dont want to accept it,u started talking of other things like false cases,etc to divert the issue.

 

 

 

in india non-dowry seekers are so few,that a gal may suprass her marriageable age to find one.now dont say that gal shud remain spinster till she finds non-dowry seeker.

 

 

 

this means u accept that dowry seekers are so many in number.

 

 

 

can i ask u,why u r advising gals not to marry dowry demanders?

 

 

 

why dont u change ur stand and instead educate all men never to demand dowry so that gals dont have problems selecting good grooms?

 

 

 

This generation of girls especially those who are working seeks more freedom, hates to stay at home, does not like to mix up with the boy's family, does not like to do even 1 household task, does not want children 

 

 

 

exactly! i agree.many gals are spoiled nowadays.but who asks you to look for career minded gals who have long working hrs.?

 

 

 

u guys and ur parents in metros specially look down upon housewives,because bringing a non-working bride will lower ur reputation in society.u call them BEHENJIS.

 

 

 

u want an earning member who brings home a fat salary which ur mums can take each month.when u bring home a bride who's working for 10 hrs.,dont expect her to be a sati-savitri who will be like a machine who never gets tired after work,who will never want an independent life,who will never say NO to u.

 

in other words u are looking for indian sanskars in a westernised wife whom u choose urself.so you are responsible for messing up ur own life.

 

 

 

i have personally encountered such larke wale who were adamant that they want a working wife and dont want their DIL to sit at home.

 

 

 

so if u want an indianised wife who serves u all,then look for a housewife.otherwise stop complaining!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OH C'mon who asks for dowry when a boy and his family are earning a decent income? 

 

 

 

yes IAS officers,IIT engineers,doctors,CAs etc.

 

 

 

if u fail to accept this fact also,u dont belong to india.u live in a secluded island,unable to accept the reality of indian marriages.

I also feel so...getting married became the biggest mistake of ma life..this is horrible to tolerate when you are ccheated by him whom you trusted most!..only money is the thing that matters to all...because it is the tool one can attain everything with ...my old husband is respected by many as he has money..so bobody give interset when i tell them about my problems.

I agree to shally to some extent. Today's youth is too confused. The age of 25-30 is very difficult for them. They are already burdened because of education/career and so many other problems. And that is when they get married. Suddenly they see threat to independence with lots of added responsibilities. If anyone of them is not able to adjust, it opens floodgates for litigations.

 

But in the process, it is not only the spouses that suffer, because of the laws of our country the whole family of boy, even his old parents and married sisters life is made hell. There is a need for change. Matrimonial issues are civil in nature. But in any matrimonial dispute today, first thing that lawyers will suggest to a girl is 498a. A failed marriage is treated as an offence committed not only by boy but his entire family. Even if the girl was at fault.

@nina: You said

money is the thing that matters to all.

old husband is respected by many as he has money.

 

As you said your husband already has money. Then what is the problem? Who is demanding money and from whom? How did he cheat you?

he cheated me in age..he has money..i too have..he is male and old and..i am from diifernt place.he is from native place..moreover he lives in the male dominated society..

How does one define dowry? What is dowry? Anything given to boy as gift is dowry? Any gift given to girl is stridhan?I have asked  a number of times as to what constitutes dowry-and I am yet to receive an answer! People just harp about dowry without even defining what it is?

Marrying is a problem in India for men. Indian men have to understand the problems with marriage and find alternatives-as law is biased and tyrannical.

Dowry and gifts or presents are customarily the two valuables shared with the couple by society. Society means anyone, the bridegroom's family, the bride's family, the friends and relatives of both families. There is no difference in objects but for same object the nomenclature may differ. For instance as dowry one can give money (cash/cheque), jewellery, sarees, bangles etc. The same items can be classified as gift or present (as named in DP Act), if they are given as gifts. What is dowry and what is gift is not decided by showing the difference between items, like all the cash given is dowry, all items other than cash is gifts. That is not correct way of looking at dowry and gifts. The maternal uncle of girl gave a gift of Rs.1116/- to the girl. Though it is cash, it will be called gift. He had given it exclusively to girl without naming boy. It is entirely the stridhan of girl according to Indian law. It it is given in the name of both, half of it will become Stridhan for the purpose of Indian laws.