Hi all,
I am a 26 yr old guy.I was in love with a girl for 4 yrs right from my college.Initially things went well and We decided to get married after we get settled in career.We had physical relationship.But later, she did few things which hurt me badly.She used to lie to me a lot even for silly things.When asked about it, she used to shout and abuse me verbally and even physically.She wud talk bad about my looks and compare me with other guys and degrade me.She used to comment on sensitive issues like my manliness, and call me impotent etc.A lot of times i wanted to break up, but she wud come and beg for forgiveness.I used to pity and accept her again.She used to promise she ll never lie or hurt me again.But again after some days,she wud do the same thing.This was becoming a never ending story.At last,we had a big fight and she herself asked me to get lost.She said she wont change for me and that she ll get 100 guys better than me. After that my parents started searching a bride for me.When she found out that,she came to my house and abused me in front of all neighbors.She said i have to marry her else she ll commit suicide writing a suicide note that i am responsible for her death.She even went to the house of one of the brides,which my parents had seen for me and told her that, she should'nt marry me else she would suicide.She also sent emails threatening her.Since then, she has been torturing me daily,forcing me to marry her.She threatens to go to the police to file a rape case against me.Some times i wud get frustrated and tell her that i myself will go to the police and tell them what happened.At that time, she wud cry and beg me not to do so and spoil her name.
It has been 3 yrs now.She is not marrying anyone nor allowing me to marry anyone.She says she cant think of marrying anybody else except me.I m not able to proceed with my life because of the fear that she would create problems to stop the marriage.I m waiting for her to move on, so that i can also move on without any problems.I dont know what is her plan.I tried to contact her parents but she begged me not to call them.Somehow once,I spoke to her father to ask him whats her plan.He is not even aware of all this.He knows that we loved during college,but he says that he thought that we parted after that.He does'nt have any interest on me as i am from a different caste.I dont know what she has told her parents.He told that if we marry,his reputation in the society will get spoilt. He asked me not to talk to his daughter hereafter.But she is not leaving me.She keeps emailing, texting and calling me telling that she will only marry me and if i don't marry her she ll die etc.I don't know how to get out of this.I want to move out of city and live somewhere else to avoid her but she has contact with all my relatives and friends.So she can easily track me.
My life is now stranded and I am clueless what to do. Can i take legal action on her before she takes on me?But what if she puts a counter rape case on me.I don't want to have any criminal record or else i may lose my job.Even an FIR on me can get me terminated from my company.So i have no guts to face all that.I didnt rape her and we had physical relation only with her full consent.In fact she herself came and stayed in my house where i was staying alone.I didnt plan to cheat her.At that time, we both thought that we ll get married. And moreover we broke up mutually.I have proofs in email where she abused me and asked me to get lost from her life.Now she says she told in anger and never meant it.My life is screwed up and i lost all my mental peace.I repent now for choosing the wrong girl at a wrong age.I know i have caused irreparable damage to her but that was not my intention.In fact she was the reason for us breaking up and now i dont like her at all.I dont want to marry her.Is there any way i can get some restraining order on her, so that i can move on with my life? Sorry for the big story, but the problem is really serious.Any advice would be appreciated
