How to get rid of my mother?


hi,


I am a retired person having a psychiatric patient wife.


Problem is my mother. she is making my life hell.


She abuse us daily. its too much now.


Now, I got the reason. its my sister who is behind all this. Reason is they want to take over my home.


She once offered me to take 1.5 lakh and leave. My house cost today is around 50 lakh.

I refused, so she is using my mother as an instrument now. she takes my mother's pension also.


sometime ago, my wife got a panic attack. Doctor told that I should separate wife from mother.


Now, I am convinced that I cannot take any more. I want to get rid of my mother.


Is there any legal remedy for it?


and please don't say that she is my mother. Anybody in place of me would have killed her a long time before.


I have to take care of my wife now.


The house is on my name. My mother is getting pension of Rs 5000 a month.


Also, my sister is married and have an income of Rs 30000. her husband is alive.


kindly, help me.

 
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Your question looks inhuman as you are a retired man, your mother must be much older, yet I understand your problem.I want to know what ld members advise in such critical situation.

 
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professional Advocate

how you got the house? is it purchased by you or an ancestral property?

 
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The land is purchased by me and also the house was built by me by my own money, when I was working, around 15 years ago for my father and mother.


Now, I am paying the price for it.

 
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@ Author

1. Is anyone from your wife's side alive who are able bodied?

 
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Originally posted by :Tajobsindia
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@ Author

1. Is anyone from your wife's side alive who are able bodied?

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why? yes, most of them are. why are you asking this?

 
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Mr Chauhan

I can totally understand what you must be going through

I really appreciate your concern for your wife, may GOD bless every woman with such a husband.

However you should also try to understand your mother. I understand that your mother must be really very old may be in her 80's and in this age people become kids again. You should completely ignore what ever she is saying and just remember that she gave you birth and she is the one you raised you with all the love and care, hwen you were a kid  you may have hurt her her a lot but as a mother she nevertook even a notice of it as you meant everything to her. Now just think her of as a kid who does not even understand the meaning of what she is saying. Make you your wife also understand that. Tell her" ki unki baaton ko dil se mat lo". Your mother cannot harm you physically she can only speak..... and you completely ignore whatever she is saying, and fulfil your duties of a son. She may be very bad to you at present....but remember you exist becuase of her...remember you childhood....

With your sister you can talk to her straight away explain things and if that does not work tell her to keep away from your family matters.

(All mothers hold grudges against their daughters in law in the Indian family csenario: As Women never get love and respect from their family members , only thing they have is to hold on to their children especially sons as they know that daughters will leave after marriage. So all their life is spent doting on their son. After marraige the sons drift apart and the daughters in law are blamed for it. If the sons know how to keep a balance between mother and wife he can help develop better relationship between them)

 
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Consult a phychatrist and take his advise for your problem, it may be that medical help will help you and your mother. often such problems comes in old age.

 
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Originally posted by :YVerma2007
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Mr Chauhan

I can totally understand what you must be going through

I........

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you don't know my mother. she once tried to poison my wife and my baby son. I regret my decision to not handing over her to police at that time.

 
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mr chauhan

i can understand ur prblm.i think ur wife is ill because of ur mother.may be in the past u never tried to listen to her prblms which she was having b'coz of ur mother & sister.she never got the care & attention which she expected frm u.As a result she lost her self-esteem &faith.but anywaz now u know evrything.frm now onwards give as much love& care to ur wife which she always deserved.regardig ur mom ...as she is in her 80s she cannot harm u or ur wife physically.try to ignore her but  give full attention to ur wife.This will b a defeat to ur mom & sister.everything will b fine:)

 
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