Hi Experts,
I need some suggestion , This is related to my sister , she got married in april 2007 ,both are working , she has two children one boy 6+ yr and girl 5+ yr, My brother in law lives in jaunpur city that is in UP, and works in Rae bareilly (UP) and my sister works in Lucknow , she moved to Lucknow for better education of her children, her in laws were not happy with this decision , anyhow after many problems and hatred from in laws side , she managed to stable there in lucknow , as you all know we always wants for better future of our children so she was doing this without no help from her in laws , we (me n my mother ) always helped her for any problems. My "Jija" has habbit of "masti and aishbaazi" , so we have to help sister in any case (Financially, emotionally etc. ) Problems were always there but actual problem starts in last year November '14 , Jija lost his father in road accident, so his mother wanted him to live him with them , sister asked Jija to take her to Lucknow , so she can take care of everyone ( kids, Jija n mother in law) but Jija's mother was not ready . so one day a argument turns into fight and Jija beats up sister badly in front of my mother and my wife. (we were there to support sister as jija was not living there since long , sister cudn't live alone as its very risky for single person with two kids in lucknow. You all obviously understands how tough it is to for a single working mother whose children are minors and just started schooling ( it was hell tough task for her) , and worst is she started facing problem his job , as she has to take off for his family duties. Slowly different kind of torture started from Jija and his family , inspite of helping her they started giving mental torture of taking divorce, adopting child , defaming her , taking her all money , ( they even took home gas cylinder ..:( just imagine they are at there lowest point ) defaming me n my mother . all types of torture, we were bearing all this patiently , as sister was not ready for divorce thing , so were not left with any option. whenevr he comes there he comes with a new torture thing, regularly beating n abusing her, when it dsnt affected her they started abusing my late father , my mother , we were listening all this but did not take any action as we can not make our life more worst, ( we have some other issues too those dsn't relevant here so not discussing) . Now its 7 yr of over for there marriage , my Jija was waiting for this i guess as i know there are some laws related to this. he said today to sister that i have sent one notice to your mother's college from court( my mother is a professor in jaunpur , i am working in Noida ) , now we don't have any clue/idea what is this notice is all about?? shall we accept that notice or not ?? if that is for Divorce then how to proceed?? ( my sister does not wants to give divorce) or may be he is sending notice for domestic violence against my mother as he use to say that your mother and brother are intervening and your mother beat me up ( which is totally lie , my mother was protecting sister when he was beating her ). after he beats sister 4-5 times and gave life threatening statement like i ll kill you , so i suggested sister to send a letter to city SSP so that it should be in there knowledge. Police men visited her took some money and settled the things without any action. ( as sister was afraid that will make problems more worse ) Now i m clueless what to do. Sister is very courageous but don't want to give divorce. She says All will be Ok one day. she is trying her best , even i was sometime fed up but we have to support her in any case. Our family scene is very bad . I am living in Delhi alone, my mother and wife is in Jaunpur alone ( its also a threat as Jija and his family lives in same city and they are socially very strong as they pretend ) ,Sister is in Lucknow alone with Two kids we visit there regularly infact last 7 yrs we are always there whenever required ( and unfortunately that need arises regularly ) we are not very social, straight forward people we are , dont know how to manipulate people or things.
Please suggest me how to proceed now, Shall we accept that notice , if its related to divorce then what to do ? and if related to any other defamation, domestic violence thing how to tackle.
I am ready to do anything , now i have to lead from here, sister has done alott but this marriage is not going to work . I want to restrict them somewhere somehow. Pls suggest
Thanks and sorry if its too lengthy , and for my bad english.
Regards
