samir (consultant) 11 June 2013
Vinayak (self) 11 June 2013
Sad to hear your story
It is also difficult to decide just seeing one mail
but trusting you on face value and going by what you had written, here is what I can say
first you have to decide on what is that you want ?
What do I mean by that ? some examples below
Sample / Option / path / direction ..... # 1. do you some how expect this woman to become the "debta" you imagine, come home and live like a coy wife ?
Sample / Option / path / direction ..... # 2. are you ready to fall at her feet and say you do what you want, you stay with whom ever you want, you say whatever sh1t you want about my mother and sister, but just for the sake of society wear the mangalsuthra and live like a wife ?
Sample / Option / path / direction ..... # 3. or are you ready to say "....forget marriage .... " "...let me first assess my position, see what has happened to 1000s of smart guys who got married before me, let me network with other such men ...." and "...let me lead my honourable simple life ??...."
Example / option 1 is outside discussion on forums, that is part of Bollywod movie dreams
Example / option 2 : that's pretty easy, all is in your hands ... and probably legs and head ! just decide where and how to fall
Example / option 3 : Like most honourable things in this life that takes time and patience .... decide IF you are ready for that
more after hearing from you
regards
Vinayak