Hi,
I was in relationship with a girl for last 5.5 yrs. We were studying together in college and after 1 year of friendship we got into relationship and were in same for 5.5 years. Initially everything was good. But gradually she started having mistrust. Due to which she started raising finger on me for everything, even if I spoke to any girl, then also she started mistrusting me. Post college placement this continued and I used to explain it to her that as she can talk to guys I can also, but mistrust grew a lot.
After working for 1 year, I started by own business, and shifted to a different city. My father also joine dme in the business, in business I had female employees, this even made things worse as now everyday we use to fight for 6 hours on phone because I had female employees (and I used to put up that she is also a female and she is also working and there is nothing wrong in this). Post to that she started raising fingers on everything (even such things as having a common washroom in office for males and females - because of this she starting abusing and fighting everyday). Things like this grew everyday, as I was madly in love with her, I used to try to make her understand everyday, because of which I was never able to focus on my business. Still things got worse.
Post this, she started fighting and shouting on everything and she never used to listen anything. This grew to a level where she started blackmailing me everytime that she will hurt herself if I would say anything to her, even after abusing me and raising finger and mistrust on me, she use to do the same. Still I used to try to make her understand. This led to events in which I started lying to her on small things as when I am out with family (as she started questioning and fighting on those points as well).
Gradually she put up that marriage is the reason that this kind of behaviour has been from her side, and thus 4 months back I had my parents talk to her parents in regards to marriage and decided to meet them in couple of months. Still during these 2 months she didnt changed and she started blackmailing me everyday by hurting herself for everything. Infact she went to a level where strangulated her, just because I was busy in office and was not able to speak to her, she use to abuse me and fight and shout on me everyday as female employees are there in my office. This detoriated my health and it led to situations in which I passed out and fainted quite a few times because of this mental trauma (this has happened 8-10 times earlier as well).
This led to a decision from my side that I cannot continue the relationship with her as she was just fighting, mistrusting and blackmailing me and thus I walked out of the relationship.
Now its been a month that our parents met and decided that we should not continue.
But now she went ahead and filed a mental harassment case against me in Mahila Aayog and she had communicated through a common friend that she just wants to destroy me anyhow as I am not marrying her.
During our relationship of 5.5 yrs few times we even came physically close to each other on mutual consent, and it was the major reason for which I anyhow wanted to make this relationship work (inspite of going through mental trauma every single day). But now she is saying that she would use this to frame me up.
Please advise what to do
