I'm married for last 26 years. My mother passed away before my marriage, my dad passed away three years after my marriage. My wife looked after my dad moderately well the last two years before his death.
Now I wish to discuss about the full time care taking of my aged MIL. My wife has three brothers and five sisters all elder to her, out of which two sisters are no more. For the last 15 years my Brothers-in-law have refused to take care of my MIL and her 3rd son threw her out of her house after getting possession of house in her home town which belonged to my MIL. These 15 years my MIL used to stay with one of my Sister-in-law's house for six months and the rest in my house. At the beginning I thought it was temporary and did not mind looking after her, however as the years went by it became a ritual of six month in my SIL's place and the rest in my place. However, the early part of 2017 my SIL who was taking care of my MIL passed away, since then the entire burden of full time full year care taking has fallen on our shoulder. My wife has no objection to it for obvious reasons. However, in what way I should be burdened with this long term care taking. Off late this issues has spoilt the atmosphere at home and happiness has taken a beating. No vacations, not able to spend quality time with family by going out. On the contrary all her sons enjoy multiple vacations and leading a happy life at the cost of my misery. The worst part is my BILs who are extremely well off don't even have the basic courtesy to seek my approval to have this arrangement working. They feel happy not having to take care of their aged mother in her dawn of life. My MIL is to be partly blamed for this, she keeps lamenting that she feels comfortable staying with us and with my SIL (who passed away), the sons and other daughters have seized this sentiment of my MIL and shoved upon this unwanted responsibility on us. Also, my MIL's affection and overtly love towards her sons and their kids are irritating, she has little or no love left for her daughter's kids, but she wants all her needs to be fulfilled by them though, how mean and selfish of her.
I now to seek opinion for my learned friends, if I can get any relief from law in this misery of mine.