Hello everyone,

My wife has left my home after some quarrel between us. My in-laws have been polluting her mind after her marriage. But after going to her parents home, I see that they now realize pinch of this action, bad publicity in society. They are not facilg tough time answering to relatives questions about this issue. 

Now my wife is thinking of returning back to my home, I see some steps being taken by her parents (like trying to convince my parents/relatives, etc.). Though this dispute has not gone upto serious level (like filing 498a, FIR, etc) But I want to be safe from my side this time.

hence i am thinking of getting written concent from her and her parents when she returns home. do you think it will be a good idea and if yes and what points should i get written in stamp paper?

I know this stamp paper thing will not help me much if in future she files 498 against me, but I just want to take some kind of confirmation in written form form wife and in-laws.

Mr. Dinu,

You can ask your wife to write a registered post letter addressing you that she is reliased from her mistakes and now she wated to come and live with you to lead a happy marital life. Hence, please come and bring her back.

But she should not mention in that letter like "as suggested by you, I am writng this letter etc. etc..".

This registered post letter difinitely will help you in case she goes against you in future in any maner.

Suresh.K

Hi Dinu,

I guess it is fine to get a written  consent. You should also be ready, if she comes up with something to get a written consent from you as well.

What is the guarantee that you wont send her out after she signs the consent??

There are many questions that arises. Only if both of you trust each other, this can work. Only if both of you want the marriage to work this can happen.

Yes you can take it.

In my view it is not a good idea also it is not legally accepted and cannot be taken as granted.'

also all these will nither prevent u and ur family if she repeats such act or register FIR and 498a case nor help u in gaining benefit after FIR is registered.

yes she can also tell later that she was forced to write such letter.

I am also facing same problem and thinking on same line of action. My wife has filed few falses cases like DV, 125c and planning to file 498a as well. But after regular talks she is ready to take all cases back, I want a written compromise deed where she mentions that all of her previous allegations were false and now we have settled down our differences and want to continue a good married life. If she mentions all these things and a get a certified court copy, will it be a safe legal instrument in future against false 498a cases??

How about summarizing the past issue in few bullets, and get it signed by all parties - both husband and wife side?This would serve as a document for future reference. Once copy each with parents and in-laws. This might be a better option.

 This type of question is often put to us by both wife and husband.  If such undertaking is given by wife, and after that undertaking both husband and wife resume their matrimonial life, again wife file any complaint under Section 498-A,

In the case of husband:  he can use the undertaking in getting anticipatory bail / regular bail on the ground that the wife is  habitual in putting false allegations.  But after that in the real trial, this undertaking willl not be helpful and the case will be decided on its own merits.

In the case of wife:  she can say that the undertaking is given under compulsion and inducement offered by the husband to provide harmonious matrimonial relationship, even though the allegations were true to the core.  She can say that after obtaining the undertaking, taking advantage of it, he became more cruel.

So, as Ms. Asha said above, the mutual confidence, respect and love only pave way for future harmonious relationship.  

And its very very dangerous to trust this wife who has tasted blood already. If things go wrong u will be screwed like never b4