Both you and your wife should record evidence of ‘Forced to resign’ (audio/video/witnessed/minuted) for use at appropriate time in appropriate forum!
The burden of proof of ‘Forced Resignation’ may fall upon you.
Forced resignation can be termed offence and deemed termination.
In case of resignation if it is proved that it was a forced resignation obtained by the employer under threat of coercion, it would be taken as a case of termination. But on appreciation of pleadings and evidence if it is found to be free and voluntary, then it would not amount to termination………..
OR you should be able to establish that such intolerable conditions were created that you had no option but to separate by resignation…………………………..culminating into Wrongful Termination.
Both you and your wife should firm up your next venture ASAP.
Since you are verbally asked to resign and given one month……………………it being verbal communication…………..is not on record…………….and if you have not submitted notice of resignation and submit resignation with immediate effect after expiry of 30 days…………………..it is upto employer to waive off the notice period/pay or adjust it in FnF statement.
Don’t worry about Gratuity. If Payment o Gratuity Act is applicable to the establishment and you are eligible then it has to be paid to you. There is no wage ceiling and limitation in case of Gratuity. The employer has to supply notice of determination of Gratuity and payment within 30 days and tender interest @10%pa for delayed period……………………or you can submit FormI and demand notice of determination of Gratuity and payment with interest.
If it is suitable to you and your aptitude then you may think upon submitting minutes of discussion during which you were asked to resign and give up your employment in a language as deemed suitable to you……………….and build favorable written record under proper acknowledgment.
Ensure to obtain proper acknowledgment of proper handover of charge/NO Tasks pending at your end.
You cam demand acknowledgment/acceptance of notice/resignation,service certificate,relieving letter,FnF statement (showing computation of earned wages/earned leave/bonus/reimbursements/incentives etc), NOC/NDC,Form16, salary slips of all months,PF a/c slips of all years,ESIC card etc…
Remain gentle and amiable.
You are HR Person and should be able to handle the matter.
If you are unable approach an able Labor Law Consultant/Service Matters Lawyer.