how come you still want to lve with her? i just dont get it...
1. she left you more than 1.5 year ago.
2. you are unemployed
3. you have not had any kind of contacts during this time
filing an RCR will be suicidal for you
when you fil RCR you will need to explain the reason for the delay in filing RCR after your wife left...in your case you need to provide a satisfactory explaination for waiting for 1.5 year before filing RCR...you will also need to prove that you tried to contact her during this period many times and asked her to come back but she bluntly refused..and you will need to prove all this...if you fail to prove this you are sure to lose your RCR and thats only buying more trouble...
also, the moment you say you did contact her, she will say you had indeed contacted her but only to abuse and harass futher...then theres no way you can get your DV quashed...
also, if your wife responds to your RCR saying that she is wiling to join you but under some condtions...you might be left with no option but to agree to her conditions...she can put up conditions like you should leave your parents and put up a seperate family ...since you are unemployed at this time she may even put up a condition that you should leave your parents and come and live with her at her parents place...because you are not capable of taking care of her needs as you are unemployed and she is not interested in aking care of your parents needs...etc etc...if not all you will have to agree to atleast some of her conditions...and that again is inviting more trouble
she may make an allegation saying you only want her now after 1.5 year becasue you lost your job and are in dire need of money...this will strengthen her DV and 498A