Abusive wife made life hell. Picks up quarel every now and then, calls mother and starts shouting as if she has been beaten badly, threateans of police complaint, suicide, getting me and my family arrested, etc. She has already put a false dowry case last year which ended up in mahila cell counselling. She had put my brother and sisters names in her dowry complaint along with parents name. From last 6-8 months for some petty quarrels she visited police station 3-4 times for making some or other complaints. I used to get calls from police station but I never picked so got spared of further action. She can pick up quarrel and reach police station for such a petty thing as not buying shampoo for her or taking her to hotel.
I stay on 1st floor with wife and father mother on groundfloor. Mother is bed ridden. Father and myself take care of mother. Wife does not like me doing home duties and helping out parents. She demanded separate cooking for her and myself. This is big thing but to avoide further fights we agreed. My borther and sisters are married and living in different cities and busy in their life. Sometimes in a year they visit our place for 2-3 days hardly. They hardly talk with or about her, fighting is far away but she just can't tolerate when they come.
Whenever fighting she thinks I am recording her actions, though I try to but I don't do it always. Last time she threw both my mobiles doubting recording her when she was fighting and calling her mother. One mobile got damaged and not repairable. She does such things but I always keep my mouth shut as things may go beyond control if resist her. I am a freelance software developer and have lost peace of mind and unable to work and facing immence financial crisis. Lost all good clients and big money in incomplete projects because of all this. EMIs are getting bounced but wife thinks I am telling lie. She earns but demands money from me which if I sometime do not pay then again fights. She visits her mother's place 4-5 days in a week. About 10 days ago she asked me money to buy birthday gift for her brother so I gave her. It was also her birthday last week but I did not gave her any gift or took her out as I was severly ill. After 2 days my brother came and I went to pick him from station she started fighting as how I got fit now and going out to pick him. I was quit and did not responded her as I did not wanted any drama in front of brother. The next day she again picked up fight. This time I could not hold myself and just said "firse pagalpan ka jhatka aaya kya". These words and she was like burning with revenge. She called her mother and said I am fighting with her and whether she should call 100 to get me arrested. Her mother told to go to police station and complain instead of calling 100. Yelling and shouting she went to police station that I will get everybody arrested. I switched off mobile but later on got sms alert for missed call from police station number. Nothing happend after that. Since that incidence on this Sunday she is at her mother's place.
Sorry for the long story but I wanted all the respected experts to get hold of my situation. Now I will ask my questions -
1. I want to rent out a home leaving parents home as its very dangerous to keep her in this premisis. She was not ready to move out from here earlier also as her lawyer suggested but can I move out in her absence to the rented home? Can she takes any action for this?
2. Its too much now and I have came to conclusion that it is not possible to live with her so what steps should I follow to proceed for divorce?
3. Like many other harressed husbands I too fear that she might do anything when she gets divorce notice to take revenge. What should I do to protect me and my family?
All the above questions our laywer can answer but he is telling things in parts or sometimes says something and sometimes says some other thing. So respected experts please help and guid me in this situation.
