498a filed on my complete family

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Whatever she does with her earning is her own peril.

Understand, she is not wasting her earning. She is trying to help her parents.

Talk to her and sort out the matter.

Regards,

Ekta 

If a wife chooses to maintain her parents, without taking money from husband, you shouldn't stop her. At the same time a wife earning more than husband cant put the entire burden on husband. You should have handled the matter carefully.

You could have refused to put any money in her hand, and let her suffer by lenders, but not abuse her. Still never take wife for granted. It is her burden to pay off her loan, why did you bother. You should only pay half the household expense or even less, and refuse to pay anything else, let her manage on her own. But you messed it badly !.

You dont have choice but fight now. Probably you can tell the truth, and argue that cruelty for such scolding does not extend upto 498A to attract imprisonment, and fight your case. You would not get any relief under DV normally, but luckily for you wife earns double your salary, so she needs to show herself dependable on you IN ADDITION TO commission of DV - you can challenge only that part. Get opinion of lawyer.

the author does not realise the law relating to Sr Citizens.

dear sir,

even if your wife is not earning still she cannot be stopped form maintaining her paresnts out of your earnings.  It is her legal obligation and you are lucky that she is able to earn for  fulfil this obligation. Otherwise husband hasto bear her legal obligations if she stops earning.

1)  I have requested her not to do mistake and don't break relation. she applied 498a on me , my father and brothers.  

WHT ABOUT YOUR MSTAKE OF NOT LETTING HER TO SPEND HER EARNING THE WAY SHE LIKES

2) once she given her gold to my brother account  and taken money from bank as loan. Now she was saying that my brother kept her gold for money in fir ... how can i prove my brother was genuine  

Not understood what you mean?

3) she and my father have conversation on phone after she left me and went to her home without intimation, In that both scoled each other in phone. she took that conversation as proof.

So it was your father's folly to behave in a way not befitting FIL why should she not record such conversation as proof.

4) one another brother who is innocent . she kept fir on him to saying that she given money for him by hand.

what did this brother do to stop you to proceed to wrong path.

finally my father was vexed and said that  relation should hold by faith not by money, v dont give 30 lakhs to my wife. 

so as long as you are given all her earning and she not being given any chance to spend the way she likes the relations are held on faith

how to save my innocent family from this 498a case and stop giving divorce to my wife.

"innocent" ?

you can save your family be realising your own follies and without such realisation you cannot have sight on any way out.

 I dont want my wife to give money to her parents because they dont know how to balance bussiness and making us financially down by keeping loans by my wife. 

this is not your choice dear.  it is her earning.  she can stop earning and then compel you to part with some of your earning on this project.

Originally posted by : jaig
	If a wife chooses to maintain her parents, without taking money from husband, you shouldn't stop her. At the same time a wife earning more than husband cant put the entire burden on husband. You should have handled the matter carefully. You could have refused to put any money in her hand, and let her suffer by lenders, but not abuse her. Still never take wife for granted. It is her burden to pay off her loan, why did you bother. You should only pay half the household expense or even less, and refuse to pay anything else, let her manage on her own. But you messed it badly !. You dont have choice but fight now. Probably you can tell the truth, and argue that cruelty for such scolding does not extend upto 498A to attract imprisonment, and fight your case. You would not get any relief under DV normally, but luckily for you wife earns double your salary, so she needs to show herself dependable on you IN ADDITION TO commission of DV - you can challenge only that part. Get opinion of lawyer.

not able to agree with

"for such scolding does not extend upto 498A to attract imprisonment, and fight your case. You would not get any relief under DV normally, but luckily for you wife earns double your salary,"

He is a person who got a wife earning double to him.

He does not want her to spend as per her choice which clearly means that he wants her entire (atleast what appears from his post).  WIthout such surrender from her he will not let the mariage go smoothly (as he himself told that he and his father got vexed).  So his expectation from her (as stated by him) is a consideration for marriage that she should financially surender and not to spend anything against his wish from her salary (double than his). What else is dowry definiation.

He himself sated that his father behaved with her in such a way  that the recording is an evidence against him.

He seems to be correct that his wife is spending money and incurring loans on unviable project.  Business losses can never be compensated by saving from salary.  But this is the way she decides to spend.  It was her discretion to accept his advise but no compulsion on her. She has a right to spend unwisely. He has no choice and no right to comple her not spend the way she likes.

It appears that uptil now he and his family is just creating evidence against themselves.  He still appears to have not lost the chance of correcting himself and avoid spoiliong life.