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pappu
(Querist) 12 February 2018
This query is : Resolved
Hello experts,
I am working in govt. My family choose a girl for me. I also accepted that girl. after one month of conversation we got engagged. but after engagement i found she had past i came to know this and when i asked about this she accept it but she never told me clearly about that relationship i was asking how much that relationship was (means is there any physical ) but she never told, the another problem is her family background is not good. They are weak in wealth but never showed this. Their family is very arrogant in nature. specially her mother and maternal uncle doesnt know how to behave with son in law. whenever argue is with us her mother joined in that and it increases, even her other family members are also very poor in behaviour. I have also dought that in future wheather she will take care of my parents or not. But i want to marry her because i love her. I dont know whether she loves me or not or still she has her past in her mind. Now how will i go from here wether i should marry her or i should left. But leaving her is also very difficult for me because i love her sooo much. What should i do. how will i accept her past its going to very difficult for me.
Guest
(Expert) 12 February 2018
Dear Pappu,
Love or leave were two options for you to chose one out of the two. Both options of love and thinking about her past cannot go together. When you confessed that you love her too much, where is the question of thinking about her past?
Your personal matter should be decided by yourself in consultation with your elders only. There is no scope for any advice by the experts on legal issues.
Guest
(Expert) 12 February 2018
Very vague query about a non legal problem. The matter is of your personal life, you have to decide for yourself, not the strangers on your behalf.
kavksatyanarayana
(Expert) 12 February 2018
It is completely your personal problem. do as you like. but only as an elder, i think to leave this match is better.
DR.VEDULA GOPINATH
(Expert) 13 February 2018
with apprehension and doubt you should not marry. leave her. call me 09866013121
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 13 February 2018
This not love but infatuation towards her that is pushing you towards her and after the marriage once you have enjoyed your honeymoon period you'll realise mistake of marrying her and once again you'll be posting here seeking legal advice of breaking marriage with her on all those grounds like not disclosing her complete past history and relationship with other person before marriage with you, her acts of misbehaviour and dislike for your parents and not ready to live with them in the matrimonial home, she and her parents levelling false criminal complaint against you and your parents for dowry demand and seeking prosecution of all in this regard and lastly seeking huge amount of alimony for calling off the marriage in amicable manner.
It will be best now to call off the marriage rather suffering in future and getting blackmailed by these people.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 13 February 2018
You have pointed out the negative aspersions on past of prospective bride, behavioral issues of family, economic backgrounds, and have doubts that whether you and elders of your family would get due value, respect etc ….
Generically speaking; It is best to avoid getting into such relations.
You are mature and have elders of yr family to counsel and support you.
Take help of your elders of the family and form your firm qualified personal opinion also…
Now and in future IT is your personal decision and right decision shall help you.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 14 February 2018
Unfit query.
Consult your parents, relatives and friends.
LCI Admin must have filtered and deleted such no-sense question.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 14 February 2018
I must add that given facts indicate you to be a good recipe for criminal case on dowry matter.
You are aggrieved of financial condition of the family.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 14 February 2018
Sit with elders of the family, seasoned well wishers and a very able counsel and take a qualified and wise decision.
It is upto you.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 February 2018
So even if you do not want to continue still consensus is desirable. If you unilaterally withdraw then being of low financial background they can any time allege that you backed out as they were not able to meet dowry demand.
