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(Querist) 14 March 2013 This query is : Resolved 
i understand all of your concern but maybe keeping the divorce issue apart you are being judgemental by hearing a part of the story..let me put it across to you..i got married at the age of 18 to a man who is 15 years elder than me..i was not very matured to understand what being in a marriage is..my father wanted me to get married to this person although the rest of the family were against it..

things were okay for the first 2 months..then things started getting worse..my ex had a bad temper and this led to he hitting me for no reason! i became a mom at the age of 20 and i had to go thru an emergency operation becoz i was forced for sexual activity..which was a cause of fight which was minor amongst a couple..this led to a great injury to my ovaries for which am sufferting till date !
my son was a premature child and both mother and child was in the ICU for 5 days..this was wat that man is ..

things went on worse and minor hittings became brutal leading to severeness hits ..which made me bleed badly and it was done in the presence of my son and a maid ! my inlaws and my parents were aware of this ..many a times they had come over to resolve the issue..he would promise and again start..

i educated myself and in the year 2010 when my son was 10years old i got a job which was enuf for me to sustain in kolkata..but one day things went worse..my ex brought a jar of keroscene and call called my dad..infront of him he said he wud burn me alive right tat time..tat was the final day for me in that house

let me also make it clear to all of you who think we should unite that i did try to resolve issues for 13 YEARS OF MY LIFE WHICH IS NOT VERY SHORT ! BUT I HAVE MY PATIENCE TOO..do you think am being selfish in this????

am a mother too and it is extremely difficult for me to stay withut my son but am doing so only for one reason! i want my son to have a good life and education which i in my present salary cant give it to him..and i am not away from my son..i stay in the same city and do visit him and talk to him ..i hope u realise that if a son is being deprived of his mother isnt the mother going thru pain too??? he is a part of me and i know the pain but am doing this for his own good..i know his dad will give him all that he needs which i cant..i would expect you to think from some logical point of view on this too..

i was still concerned abut his respect and that is the reason i did not file any case aagainst him..maybe that was where i went wrong..

do u think even if we reunite i can get back those days of my l ife which has gone in vain and pain??? dont i being a human being deserve some better life?? i just wanted to know how long would that case last at the maximum limit..coz we still live in a country like india where women are matter of negligence and harrasment day in and day out and a woman like me is always looked down upon int the society..dont i deserve a life of respect and some happiness?? is this called being selfish?? and do you think my child would grow up to be a happy child in such an environment??? atleast he is somewhat happy since he is not seeing the torture a woman /mother receives!

now you tell me AM I RIGHT OR WRONG ???



all i want to know is are there any way out to speed this process up..my ex is not willing the sign the papers at any cost and i want it done asap..
R.K Nanda (Expert) 14 March 2013
query too long to reply.
Raj Kumar Makkad (Expert) 14 March 2013
I have seriously gone through your query and after reading I do remember the words of Rashtarkavi Maithilisharan Gupt who had said" Abla Teri Haye yeh Khani, aankho main hai Neer aur hai Pani".

This is the story of many women folk in may parts of Bharat.

Anyway, you can never be designated as selfish rather you are a brave lady who is facing such mental, emotional, economical, physical problems apart from taunting way of look of society towards such affected ladies.

Now you should file DV Act case containing the shared household, maintenance, compensation against physical pains, sufferings, respectful life and visitation rights to meet your children in dignified way etc. Such litigation shall not take much time to decide.


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