Problem in love marriage
Shobhit Chandra
(Querist) 03 February 2013
This query is : Resolved
friends...... the problem is tht i meet wit a girl on facebook....we beccome friends....finally after 2 yr of friendship...we fall in lov with her ...now at present we knw each other from last 4 years....2 years of being commited.....we wants to marry with each other.....we both are major 22 years old....still our relation is not disclosed in her family but my family knw about my relation and they r agree ....but the problem is that i am from an OBC cast...& She Is AGRAWAL...( well known general cast ).. i m in a fear from last 2 years ....how there parents can become ready for me after knowwing my cast......we both cant live without each other.....thts y i wana knw ur suggessions what wen ca do if her parents will disagree for marriage....we dont wana ran away from there houses.....as this situation can b arise any time thts y i wana knw in advance the rights which works in favour of lovers who wana marry...
2...what we can do if we became aware of that her parents are planning to kill me or her daughter...
3....can her parents take any action against me to get rid of me...
4....any other advises which u wana give to us ....we cant live without each other ...wana spend life with each other at any cost....
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 03 February 2013
Dear Querist
both of you are major and its your fundamental right to marry a person of your own choice, if the girl is ready to live with you she should send a compliant against her parents and relatives for harassing her, she can file a compliant before court u/s 12 of DV ACT.
feel free to call
Shobhit Chandra
(Querist) 03 February 2013
thanxx alot sir ..i will call u some day
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 03 February 2013
".....we both cant live without each other...."
All say so till marriage,
and many sent behind the bar, demands lakhs for Divorce & harass, is not new story, nor imaginary.
So throw away illusion's, Be practical +
wise.
Marry with consent of all , Her parents, your parents, Keep all Happy.
Why be selfish to hurt who bring her up of 22 years!!Tomorrow it can be your daughter.
Law & Love are parallel Line; Like Earth and Sky. Horizon ?? is illusion.
It don't last Lifetime.
If she goes against her parents today, who loved her for 22 years,
What stops her go against you within few years?? If you are sure, your relations last for 22 years, go and do it..
Otherwise no point Hurting feelings of her parents.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 February 2013
".....we both cant live without each other...."
This is the biggest lie human beings have ever said.
Shobhit Chandra
(Querist) 03 February 2013
ok dear if u all dont wana help us then its ok.....byee....u will never understand my feelings....
AAK
(Expert) 05 February 2013
With due respect I completely disagree with the views expressed by Mr.Shroff. You both are major and can take your own decisions. You know what is best for you. Yes, i agree there may be some practical difficulties but you are setting a great example for future generation to break away these Caste barriers.
There is NO guarantee that if she got married to some other person through arrange marriage there will not be any dowry or harassment problem. There are N number of arrange marriage dowry cases. In such case neither parents nor the daughter will be happy. Perhaps the parents may act as everything is going well and may send her back to the hell just to keep their so called IZZATH in the society leaving her to live in the hell for rest of her life.
As far as your legal remedies are concerned. Its better you both write a letter to S.P , District Commissioner, Copy to CPI of concerned police station, Judicial magistrate stating that you need police protection for so and so reason. This letter will be your weapon if anything goes wrong. Also you can take help from women welfare NGOs.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 05 February 2013
disclose the facts to your parents .if parents are not agreebale whether you are in position to support the girl . if you are able to finacially support her then only marry her . you are only 22 years old . learn to stand on your feet then marry girl of your choice
RAJU O.F.,
(Expert) 06 February 2013
I don't think you are matured enough to take a decision at this stage. Consult an advocate practicing in family court matters.
Shobhit Chandra
(Querist) 07 February 2013
thnxx AAK....for ur comments.....i really get hurt by the expert shroff comments...who is he to judge my love towards her....every one is not same as he is beleving....every one is not a cheeter....we both r very matured....we just want tht we will not take any wrong decision...u all r elders then us...thts y seeking ur help as childrens....we both r not working anywhere but we both r in ca finals & cs finals....
ajay sethi
(Expert) 07 February 2013
complete your CA . this is time to concentrate on your studies . clear your CA exams get a job then marry
ajay sethi
(Expert) 07 February 2013
Mr shroff is a senior expert in LCI . he only advised you to be practical and take the consent of parents before taking a hasty decision .
AAK
(Expert) 07 February 2013
@ Shobit chandra:
I would like to clarify you that i disagree with the views expressed by seniors it does not mean they are wrong.. that was just my views .. u should not talk to seniors in such disrespectful manner..
i wish u both finish ur course at the earliest and get the best jobs. If you are earning enough and ready to take responsibly, u shall marry her. Dont take decision on assumption & presumption basis.
