will it do any favor in pending legal fight ???
Banshilal Das
(Querist) 21 August 2012
This query is : Resolved
I married in 2007.It was an arranged marriage.My wife was a girl of remote village.We all so charmed with her beauty that we didn't search properly about her family background.Since marriage I met my wife at weekend for the first 2yrs of my marriage life.Bur always I was misguided by my wife that my parents with conservative mind treating her rudely etc etc. Being irritated to her continuous nagging finally I took her to kolkata in Nov'09.But it was a blunder of my life.I usually remain very busy in earning more and more to live a decent life in kolkata compare to others.Gradually her life style also changed radically with short-jeans new hairstyle,new boyfriend etc.Mobile always became busy with friends-call.No responsibility to cooking,sons education etc.Some of them washed her mind that she could be be film star etc.She insisted to join a Jim and became a frequent visitor of beauty parlors.
Finally she became so desperate and bold that she choosed one of them to marry as her valuable life is being spoiled with an unsmart,uncultured,unromantic person like me.I was informed by my neighbors that as soon as i go out of my office one handsome came and stays for 3 to 4 hours everyday.It the boy for whom I changed the previous residence. I found some contraceptive which i never purchased.There was a overnight quarrel.she called her parents and go away with my son threatening to teach a lesson as I tortured her mentally etc. From then(Feb'12) on I sent Rs.2,000/-in every sometimes Rs.1500/- as per advice of a local lawyer for my son through money order.I myself and my elders tried so far to bring her back for the sake of my little child at least.But all are in vain.They had driven me out from their her parental home when I had gone to visit my beloved son. I want to do everything for my son but what I can't imagine how false,baseless allegations one can bring only to ex tore some money.
Anyway dear experts my queries are:
1) Will sending this money do any favor in the pending legal battle?
2)Without filing RCR (as right now she may comeback with new motive) can I file any suit only to get the custody( at least visitation) of my son.Her parental home being in a remote village scope of proper education is very poor.My son was a bright student of renowned school of kolkata.His future is being ruined.
3) Should I stop further investment with my own name to save myself from the proposed amendment in the HMA or I can invest anywhere without her knowledge?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 August 2012
it is better to consult a family counsellor to save your marraige for ske of your child .
if it is not possible make application in family ocurt for custody of your child on grounds that no facilites of education are vailable in remote area where she is staying .
it is better you consult a local lawyer .
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 August 2012
dont make any investments in property in your name .your wife has right under DV act to stay in shared household . in laternative she can see larernative accomodation
