498A- Patch up

Angshuman (Querist) 11 April 2011 This query is : Resolved
My wife along with her parents went to local Police station one year ago and complained
against me & my parents for mental and physical torture.
My parents does not live with me.They live in different district.Me and my wife only stay at Kolkata.
They came to see off us as we were going to USA on that week.
Following were the complained as the IC asked me questions.
1.She does not get food to eat.Defence: She stays alone at home when I am at work.How can I stop her to eat?
moreover she has joined health club to trim and I am paying the charge.
2.She was torutured in US and came alone.( My defence: We came together which can be proven by Passport and boarding passes).
3.She is not allowed to contact her parents.He parents used to send BSNL Calling card to call them.
( My defence: BSNL doesnot work at US.She had a landphone,Laptop with internet connection to chat,email and use orkut etc).

Police called us and adviced my wife to talk to me separately as he feels evidences may
be false.
After we talked, She asked for some more time to talk to me.
We met on afternoon to talk it through once again.
She asked for some ridiculous conditions.Then again on that night she called me and
told me whether I am ready for mutual divorce without any contest.I agreed and as
per my knowledge Police has not accepted the case.
Next morning she started calling me and with her mom and relatives (who came from different states and has not accompanied her in police station)
she went to my friend and then to my office to meet me and to convince me that
she was threatened and provoked to complain as she came out of home out of anger and frustation that she is going to join a Govt.Job which she was about to get.
(She applied for that Job on her parents advice without informing me.).
While going out of home her cousin came to take her along with some of his friend
who shouted and used abusive words to us.

But I did not take her back and went to US.
She got the Govt. Job but kept mailing me continuously which I never answered.
When I came back to India She started calling me from very next day
and asking me if I can take her back.She is resigning from her job next month
And asking me to forgive.S
he wants to come back and go outside of India for long time to avoid all her relatives and neighbours.
and to forget the past.
I am in India from last 6 months but I have not allowed to come her to my home and
hence I am staying alone.She is also staying alone in a separate rented house in the same city
at her own cost.She earns 30,000 per month and 28 years old.
We don't have any baby and we were in US earlier also for long one year.
We are married for 4 years now and she was nice and care taking when we stayed
with minimum indulgence from her parents in US or in Banglore with me.She has not taken any jwelery or cash or anything when she left home.
I have offered the keys of safe to take away whatever she wants to take.but she has not taken anything but her certificates and a gift from her grandpa.
Now she even does not go to her home town or meet her relatives.Her elder brother and bhabi is continously shouting at her for going to police station from the very moment they came to know about this.
They also called me and my parents but I have not answered any of their calls.My parents told him that they cannot take any decision and everything is upto me.

I also love her very much. But I am scared about the future specially for my parents who just came to visit us.My parents are not at all dependant with me and they have their own house in different district ( my in laws also live in same district).
My parents are also advising me to forgive and patch up with her.
Please advice me about what should be the best way to ensure security in future If I patch up with her.
I can remember , during complain she requested the IC of police not to file 498A so that I along with my parents get arrested and told that She want to inform that she is being mentally and physically tortured and wants a separation.and just after she tried to convince me saying that , She is ready to give up all and everything things to stay with me.
Till now, no one from her family but only she is communicating with me over phone and I met her on a cafe few times.
I can also remember when her cousin was calling police from my home she stopped and said not to do that.
but she says after going to their place she was threatened and provoked.
Please help me with your advice what should I do ( if I take her back) to ensure future security of me and my parents?

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