Should i file divorce application?

ashwani singh (Querist) 22 January 2018 This query is : Resolved
Respected Experts,
My marriage held on 13 Oct 2013, initially i was happy with my wife but after sometime i observed her nature is not good as i was thinking as she becomes angry in small things, every time she shouts on me , now a day’s my parents are also with me she also shouts on them & insult them .
I was not ready for a baby but her parents forced her for a baby & she used to fight with me in this regard also. Now we have a girl child of 11 months old as she is pursuing Cost Accountants final.
She was doing her Cost Accountants final her father told as soon as possible do marriage. After marriage i also emphasized her to complete her Cost Accountants but her parents always say , you can’t do leave & focus on family life . Whenever i say to her for studies she becomes angry & say i have study always why?
She also becomes angry if she has to wash clothes of baby, my mother told to her about arrange Almirah she again started shouting on her that everything is my duty , i have to do all the things , my mother said you are at home maker so who will do this ? Your husband goes for job.
Before my marriage i also intimated to her parents that my father is a drinker & i have under gone a brain surgery also.
On first day when we talked she told that her eyesight is -10 , i did not care , but her father did not disclose this to my parents & only said that she wears contact lenses.
I am a teacher in a private school & gets 32000/- per month.
We did not take & demanded dowry also, her father gave me Rs 25000/- only after marriage.
I am a Christian & fallow protestant faith where i also told to her before marriage that i believe in a faith where our wives don’t wear jewelries & short clothes she initially before marriage said yes i will follow but when i said to her she refused & fought with me . And also told that you did not tell.
But after seeing her dissatisfaction i allowed to her to wear whatever she wants.
After seeing her attitude & nature i am not willing to stay with her i want divorce but she is not ready as during fighting i told to her she said why i will?
What should i do ? Will it has any reverse impact on me if i file divorce application ?

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Vijay Raj Mahajan (Expert) 22 January 2018
Not appropriate time to file divorce as there is hardly any suitable or sufficient ground for dissolution of marriage. Your wife and child maintenance during pendency of divorce proceedings and permanent alimony and maintenance after decree passed will be too much financial burden in you with unemployed wife.
You should compromise and try to work out marriage with her keeping in mind you have small baby to look after which should be your priority for now.

Kumar Doab (Expert) 22 January 2018
Try self and crease the differences.
You both have married for being companions for life time.
You have a minor child to care for.
If required take help of elders from both sides.
Counseling to both can help.

N.K.Assumi (Expert) 23 January 2018
Marriage is like two enemies sleeping in one bed. Even your parents, brothers, sisters and friends do not behave 100% the way you want them to behave, so why think of divorce?.In every marital home there is a need for adjustment and understanding of the spouse likes and dislikes and adjustment here and there is essential to make the marriage working, except infidelity, you have to accept your wife the way she is with Love and Care.I am sure, as times goes by things will get better and better for both of you, culminating with a Blissful and Joyful marriage.