Is there a way to give second chance to husband even after filing domestic violence case
hrileena
(Querist) 25 December 2014
This query is : Resolved
We are married for 3 years and ours was a love marriage. After my wedding I came to see the brutal face of my husband and his abusive/ violent nature. He always insulted, abused and mentally tortured me often. HE even threatened to abort my child when I was expecting for sake of money as he asked money from my dad. Let me point he was jobless that time.He said and sent me proofs that he got a very good job now and will take care of both of us.
I have a 2 year old daughter. I am a victim of Domestic violence and filed a case against my husband. i.e DV case. He never appeared till the 5th hearing as he resides in another city. My husband accused me that I filed a false case against him. I have my medical records and FIR lodged in the city where we resided. I really don't know how long my case will drag for years and how will I have a bright future for my child.
Now my husband has started being soft with me and my baby and calls/messages me everyday repenting and asking me to come back. One such incident occurred just 6 months after my marriage and I forgave and went back to him. But he never changed and this time he slapped me when i was pregnant and constantly abused me just for one simple reason.
Even today I have soft corner for him but am in dilemma as whether he will change his violent behavior or not as he's very abusive and at times very loving. Even my parents advised not to go back to him but I still want to give one second chance for sake of my daughter.
Now my question is there a way I can bind my hubby legally not to be violent in future so that he has the fear and we can have a happy life. I don't want any money but solve this issue as marriage is important for me and future of my child. I had also requested for Counselling when the Protection Officer had asked me for submitting the report. Please help!
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 26 December 2014
Contact and engage a local lawyer if you did not do it earlier, otherwise consult your lawyer to obtain his (your husband's) statement recorded in the Court, subsequently request the court to close the case, as settled, on the terms as stated and agreed.
P. Venu
(Expert) 26 December 2014
Try to sort out the matter through the DV case which is pending.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 26 December 2014
once DV case is filed case would be rfeerred for mediation between parties . you can agree to staying with your husband provided he undertakes to not physically assault you
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 26 December 2014
Hear the voice of inner soul. To start afresh you have to rely on your husband.
Just try once and for all . if it does not work you can always file another case.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 26 December 2014
Try to have amicable solution if marriage can be served. Get help of seniors, relatives etc.
hrileena
(Querist) 26 December 2014
Thank you Experts for the advise. Let me point out that my hubby resides in another city. So will it be safe for me to start again in my matrimonial house? According to DV my hubby is bound to give me a house in my city. Is it correct?
Also my family is against the idea of me going back to my hubby. So is there a way in judicial law where I can communicate with my hubby and get guarantee in presence of learned judge that violence will not be repeated again.
Isaac Gabriel
(Expert) 26 December 2014
You are the best judge rather than heeding others.If you trust him,forgive and forget the past so as to commence a new life and leave the rest to fate.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 27 December 2014
1. Consider and give priority to your married life in the order of preference and then come your parents.
2. Sort out disputes and throw away your ego for the sake of your married life.
3. Just discuss the matter with your husband with an open mind, soul and heart, without interference of Court/law.
4. Start your marital life afresh, condoning previous behaviour/action(s)of each other, by each other and live, love & care for each other.
BEST WISHES
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate 
(Expert) 27 December 2014
Your intention to save the sanctity of the marriage is appreciable. Now it is your call whether to accept him or not risk anymore. No doubt everything is subjected to changes thereby giving him another final chance taking him for granted as changed to a new form and dependable is a better idea, however a cautious step based on the bitter experience of the past can be borne in mind before hurrying up with the new proposal. The interim period of time will have some answer to his latest approaches reflecting his inner intention.
hrileena
(Querist) 28 December 2014
Thank you all once again for investing your valuable time in giving me the advise.
Next week I have another date for hearing and am sure my hubby will not turn up like he did previously. So what next step would I take? Shall i tell my lawyer that I want settlement or do as he says? He said that he would go for ex parte and issue warrant and once hubby comes he will proceed.
Shall I let the proceeding initiate and come up with some amicable terms with my hubby or simply close the case?
Please guide me.
hrileena
(Querist) 28 December 2014
Thank you all once again for investing your valuable time in giving me the advise.
Next week I have another date for hearing and am sure my hubby will not turn up like he did previously. So what next step would I take? Shall i tell my lawyer that I want settlement or do as he says? He said that he would go for ex parte and issue warrant and once hubby comes he will proceed.
Shall I let the proceeding initiate and come up with some amicable terms with my hubby or simply close the case?
Please guide me.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 28 December 2014
@hrileena,
Thans for your appreciation.
You have adequately been advised by the experts, now it is your turn to act/behave as you wish, whereas do not give another chance to the experts on this platform, enough is enough.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 28 December 2014
yes, now stop this thread. Excerpts can not advise on daily basis for your same problem.
You are a grown up person , so you are fit enough to take your own decision.
