I am getting trapped by my inlaws
Monika
(Querist) 07 October 2015
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir,
I got married in Dec'13. Since my marriage my inlaws are harassing me. They clearly said they wanted my salary so they chose me for marriage that is the reason that I dont give them my salary. I dont get any type of financial or emotional support from my husband either. I have been spending my money on all of my necessities.
I have loan that I took to bear my marriage expenses and my inlaws are well aware about that. Still they want me to give them my salary every month. All of us in this family are working.
My husband, his parents and his sister keep insulting me. They threaten me to leave their home and ask for divorce. When I denied to divorce my husband they issued Fargati today on 07.10.15 against Me, my husband and my 8month daughter to show my husband has nothing on his name anymore.
They want to throw me away from their house and then they will file for divorce. I am unable to give my salary because I am already paying loan of 10000 every month rest of the amount I spend for other expenses.
There is no one at my side either. Please suggest what should I do. Even if they have problem with me they should not involve an infant of 8months in any case. Please advise the best solution of it.
Regards
Monika
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 October 2015
I believe your area has a thana and the area is connecte3d by phone no 100 and by woman helpline.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
I got married in Dec'13. Since my marriage my inlaws are harassing me.
NOTHING NEW. THEY WILL HARASS TILL THE TIME YOU WANT TO BE HARASSED.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
They clearly said they wanted my salary so they chose me for marriage that is the reason
NOTHING NEW. IT IS MODERN DOWRY DEMAND TECHNIQUE. FACTS GIVEN BY YOU INDICATES THAT SUCH EXPECTATION IS A CONSIDERATION OF MARRIAGE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
I dont get any type of financial or emotional support from my husband either. I have been spending my money on all of my necessities.
YOU WILL GET NO SUPPORT TILL YOU EXTRACT SUCH SUPPORT. SUCH LIKE HUSBAND ONCE VISITING THANA/caw WITH MOTHER AND SISTER DO BEHAVE OBEDIENT TO WIFE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
I have loan that I took to bear my marriage expenses and my inlaws are well aware about that. Still they want me to give them my salary every month.
WHY SHOULD THEY BOTHER ABOUT YOUR LOAN WHEN THEY HAVE TAKEN YOU IN AS ATM. IT IS YOU WHO HAVE TO MAKE THEM REASLIE THAT 2+2 IS EQUAL TO NOTHING BUT 4
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
All of us in this family are working.
WHAT IS PROFESSION OF EACH ONE OF YOU
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
My husband, his parents and his sister keep insulting me.
BECAUSE YOU BEAR THE INSULT. SO THEY HAVE A DUTY TO INSULT YOU.
YOU CANNOT TELL THEM BUT POLICE WILL TELL THEM WHEN YOU DIAL 100 THAT IT IS HARD FOR HIS SISTER TO GET MARRIED WHILE ON BAIL.
EVEN IF THE JOB IS PRIVATE IT IS HARD TO RETAIN THE SAME WHILE CHARGED IN CRIMINAL CASE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
They threaten me to leave their home and ask for divorce.
SO IT IS YOU WHO HAS TO TELL THEM TO LEAVE THE HOME AND GO TO JAIL (WHICH AS PER YOUR VERSION THEY DESEREVE NOTHING LESS) AND YOU CONTINUE IN THAT HOUSE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
When I denied to divorce my husband they issued Fargati today on 07.10.15 against Me, my husband and my 8month daughter to show my husband has nothing on his name anymore.
AND YOU KEEP ON TOLERATING.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
They want to throw me away from their house and then they will file for divorce.
ONE CANNOT GET DIVORCE ON THE GROUND THAT WIFE IS NOT GIVING SALARY WHICH WAS CONSIDERATION OF MARRIAGE.
BUT IT IS YOU WHO HAVE TO PLACE A HARDER BARGAIN BEFORE THEM.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
I am unable to give my salary because I am already paying loan of 10000 every month rest of the amount I spend for other expenses.
HOW ARE THEY CONCERNED. YOU CAN GIVE THEM SALARY AND AFTER OFFICE HOURS YOU CAN SIT OUTSIDE A TEMPLE/MOSQUE WITH BEGGING BOWL. IF THERE IS GURUDWARA NEARBY YOU CAN HAVE FREE MEALS THERE.
SHYLOK MUST HAVE POND OF FLESH.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
There is no one at my side either.
YOU TYPE 498A ON THE SEARCH WINDOW OF THIS SITE AND YOU WILL COME TO KNOW HOW STRONG THE LAW IS IN YOUR FAVOUR.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
Please suggest what should I do.
YOU HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO FILE CRIMINAL CASE AND DIAL 100 AS AND WHEN (ANY NO OF TIMES A DAY AND ANY NUMBER OF DAYS A WEEK) AT ANY TIME ON THE CLOCK, YOU ARE THREATENED TO LEAVE HOUSE/ INSULTED /RIDICULED, PARTICULARLY BY HIS SISTER.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
Even if they have problem with me they should not involve an infant of 8months in any case.
WHY SHOULD THEY NOT INVOLVE AN INFANT PARTICULARLY WHEN INFANT IS FEMALE, WHEN YOU ARE NOT TAKING ANY ACTION BASED ON THE LAWS CREATED TO PROTECT WOMEN LIKE YOU.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 October 2015
Please advise the best solution of it.
IF YOU ARE WILLING TO TOLERATE TORTURE / INSULT /DOWRY DEMAND THEN NO AMOUNT OF ADVISE CAN HELP YOU.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 08 October 2015
You have to be some bold, you and only you can help yourself at first to solve your problem, then others may assist.
Try for amicable settlement with the help of friends and relatives. Set clear terms of settlement.
If not possible, consult local lawyer and file criminal complaints.
Once moved legally may result amicable settlement very difficult.
He can not get divorce easily, if you do not agree for the same.
P. Venu
(Expert) 08 October 2015
Admittedly you are having difficult times, and, as stated, you are facing it with courage and determination. Be assured that there are Law and the procedures to assist you if things reach a point of no return or if it has already reached. The decision is yours. And your query reveals that you have the maturity and sagacity to deal with the situation.
By the way, what do you mean by "When I denied to divorce my husband they issued Fargati today on 07.10.15 against Me, my husband and my 8month daughter to show my husband has nothing on his name anymore."?
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 08 October 2015
I sail with the assessment and analysis of the above legal experts.
PARDEEP KUMAR
(Expert) 10 October 2015
Rightly advised by the Brother Experts.
One cannot be insulted, humiliated unless one chooses so. If despite efforts things are not working and whatever you said is true then dial 100, file complaint under DV Act, claim maintenance, protection, continued shelter in matrimonial home. Take help of a competent lawyer.
Also you can file complaint in Crime against Women Cell, if you have facts supporting your complaint.
K.S.Srinivas
(Expert) 12 October 2015
Well advised by the Experts.
