Husband in false dowry case and harrasement case (my wife playing game to get money)
MOHAMMAD AJRUDDIN
(Querist) 28 July 2014
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir,
I m now in a big trouble. Please help me out. I am a muslim men and got married in august 2013.
i am MOHAMMAD (Ansari) resindg at ghaziabad (U.P)and girl Nasrin Wahabi) is resident of Bihar.
(The date 24.8.2012 at bihar Aara the selection for each other girls and boys.and discussion.)
(i and my two sister and their husband and my mother and my khala was there.) After selection my 2nd father in law asked me that do you want any dowry. i told him i don't need any dowry.But girl should be agree and ready for marriage and girl should not having any kind medical or any kind of problem(ladki khud se razi hona chahiye. aur use kisi tarah ki beemari nhi honi chahiye).after both family acceptance. then we moved from there.and we return to ghaziabd.
My wife looking to file a case with support of there relative. as per i concern they trying to force me that i should offer her for divorce and they will file case against me. So that they can get a good amount of money.
Becasue i felt that girl is having a mentally problem. she is short temper. She always trying to fight. at every midnight. if i ignored her word she forced me to talk to her.
Girl is having a medicine (Migrain Medicine(Head Headach)) withought my knowledge. after forcing to know she did not telling me neither theire family. responding me.
After ignoring these. Girl looking small small mistakes and my conversation to any kind of issues so that she can fight with me.
After getting a pregnant she forced me to bring medicine for abortion.
After 2 month of marriage she got pregnant. she force me bring Medicine. and blame that he feed me forcibly.
After 8 month she again pregnant.which she don't want. So said keep it. she again fight with next 15 days.
When i again i agree and bring the medicine she again blamed me that i forcibly feed that medicine to her all family relative except my family.
And She and her family saying that if anything will happen They will not able to live in delhi (ghaziabad). And girl always giving me dhamki that Sabko Fasa dungi. Tumhare Jijao ko pitawa dungi. Aur mujhe bahut bura bura kahti rahti.
And now a days my village at Bihar they are promoting that i am torturing the Girl.
Girl every day talk to there family. more than 2 hours a day.
So please help me out neither i am living hapily. i thinking to suicide. what i need to do. i am feeling my life completly dump.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 28 July 2014
1) please note that migraine is not serious medical condition. it can be controlled . your wife should avoid direct exposure to sun , avoid coffee. etc
2) because she must be having blasting headaches some times she needs your sympathy and your support.
3) consult a marriage counsellor to resolve your disputes.
4) if your wife wants divorce give her talaq in presence of quzi and 2 witnesses . pay her the meher amount and maintenance
5) since both are muslims it is not necessary for you to go to court for divorce .
MOHAMMAD AJRUDDIN
(Querist) 28 July 2014
Thank You Sir,
And i paid her Mehar.
i already told these solution but she do not do that.
Sir
But there is Big problem of Neither she accept my word. Neither She is ready for Change her attitude.
She says she don't want child and force me to bring medicine and after having medicine she told to her all relative that i forcibly feed her that medicine and i wanted to kill her, instead of She blamed me every days she don't like my mother my relative and all.
And main daily uski bekaar ke ilajaamo se ghut raha hau. i can't concentrate on my job and duty.
I want a Clean and clear Talaaq.
So that i can live my life easily.
But they are giving me extortion for police and court case.
So what i should do i can't live this type life.
within a year my life completed ruined and i am frusted.
Please help me to get talaaq. without getting involve Cort and all.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 28 July 2014
contact local qazi and give her talaq in front of 2 witness . once divorce is granted your wife cant file DV case against you . if any cases filed by wife after talaq fight on merits . you can also record threats given by your wife
MOHAMMAD AJRUDDIN
(Querist) 28 July 2014
Thanks Sir, Great Answer sir.
I have many threats like messages, voice record etc.
But the current big problem is she is pregnant and she also had a abortion medicine. So in this condition.
Can i give her Talaaq aur talaaq will be acceptable.
