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Deserted and false allegations

(Querist) 27 May 2016 This query is : Resolved 
Hi All, thank you for all your opinions. I have been frank and honest to share here. I would also like to share few more points then you all say what I should be doing. 1. First week after our engagement we spoke. When asked does she like my family. Her reply was she doesn't like my mother and my elder sister. Reason before marriage my mother and sister had enquired about their family back ground such Native,education, siblings,property etc as per normal procedure before two family comes to an agreement. Also whay either family will be doing for the marriage to be solemnised. My wife took this as a dowry negotiation. I had said to her we do not accept dowry nor give dowry as I too have two sister and my family is against dowry. If she doesn't like my mother and sister because of this reason then there is no point in continue with marriage as she has to live with us and I can not leave my family for her misunderstanding. I requested her to speak with her parents and stop the marriage or else I will request my parents to speak with her parents and stop our marriage as it was just three days since our engagement. She said she muss took the discussion as dowry and was not aware of it so no need to stop marriage as it will effect her life and her relatives will cook up stories which will further complicate her life. So I felt she was kiddish or immature and thought she will understand once married and felt I should not be one to spoil a girls life as I yo have sisters. So went a head with marriage. My faith my father passed away 10 days of my marriage. My wife wanted to go to her native to bring her belongings so she went with her father stating will return in 20 days. I had informed them she has to return soon she as to be a part of my father's third month funneral. My wife failed to return. Her parents were behaving irresponsibly stating will have the rituals done in her place and we do it in ours as they will not send her for some more days. She never returned four 4 months. Finally she was sent to our house with one of her relative. After her return her behaviour was different she never use to get along with my family. She was keeping herself distanced firm us when asked she reveled as she was in hostel for 6 years she prefers to be alone and has got use to it. Till the I was not aware she was away from her family. I thought it may take time for her to understand and will get along well after few days. Unfortunately she had to go to her native because of some month where mother inlaw and daughter inlaw should see other so she went with her sister stating will return after 30 days and I should go and bring her back. I called her the following month to inform will be coming to get her but she said will not return and disconnected my call. After numerous try they responded and started accusing us of dowry again also she doesn't want to stay with my family. She told me to do a separate house and leave my mother and sister. It all started since then. Since then she us been deserting the house often. 2. As long as she is in my place she seems to be normal but once she goes to her native she starts to cook up with reason's. 3. The main reason she keeps going to her native us her father reason he comes as and when he wants gives silly reasons and takes her away stating will bring her back in a week tome but she never returns for 3 to 4 months. 5. My wife knows I love her a lot and yes I do though she is not here I still love her. But I feel we cannot continue like this for long. I cannot desert my family for no reason. I have a life how long can I go on like this? 6. My wife had hidden the fact she was carrying. I came to know this from her sister in the fifth month. I had been doing my responsibility as a father as a husband thinking she will return and she did say will return in 5th or 7th month but know she has walked back. How long can I go this way it's been 4 months now since I have seen my kids and wife. I feel she is taking advantage of my situation. Can the law or my wife give me those golden moments I lost in this 3 plus years. I have tried all means to bring her back but failed to do so. What ever you people have asked everything was tried but failed. My only option now is seperate. It's painfull but have to. If I am wrong I am ready to face the consequences. Can my wife claim my mother's property? Sorry I know my story is long nut this the fact I wanted to share like. Please advice
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate (Expert) 27 May 2016
She told me to do a separate house and leave my mother and sister. It all started since then. Since then she us been deserting the house often.

UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES THIS APPEARS A SAFE OPTION. YOU CANNOT COMPEL HER TO LIVE WITH YOUR FAMILY IF SHE DOES NOT LIKE THEM.

YOU GOT MARRIED TO HER KNOWING THIS FEELING OF HER (RIGHT/WRONG)
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate (Expert) 27 May 2016

2. As long as she is in my place she seems to be normal but once she goes to her native she starts to cook up with reason's.

HOW CAN YOU SAY REASONS WERE COOK UP.
SAINATH DEVALLA (Expert) 27 May 2016
Mr Manjunath,
Why repeat the query again?UR previous query has been sufficiently attended by the experts.For further assistance U have to continue the same thread.
Rajendra K Goyal (Expert) 27 May 2016
No reply if query repeated.
R.K Nanda (Expert) 27 May 2016
repeated query.
manjunath (Querist) 28 May 2016
Thank you All. Sorry to repeat this. I had to do so reason when submitted the trail query it was not showing up.

Coming to the point of separation from my mother is something I shall not be doing no matter what.

If she wants to separate let her do so. I am not being adamant like said. I have given enough chance to my wife to change her way of seeing things. I had been cheated by my wife. Also if I am right a person deserting her matrimonial home on her own she can not claim alimony. Coming to my children's well being I shall take responsibility if I am given the custody else I do not like to have any kind of relationship. Sorry I don't mean to hurt any one.The law should understand even a man is made of same flesh and blood.I would like to challenge this. I know my chances are less but it my change in future of others. Thank you all.

I want to come out of this group hoe do I do so. Please advice.
Dr J C Vashista (Expert) 28 May 2016
Do not drag your query further, just relax.
manjunath (Querist) 06 June 2016
Hi All, I have filed a divorce case in bangalore dated 14th March the court has sent the register notice and the vakalat to my wife. My first hearing is sheduled for 27th June. I received a court notice for RCR and maintenance filed by my wife on 11th May in Pondicherry and have requested me to attend on 27th June. Can a person file case when already a case is filed and the date is announced. Also how can a person attend the case when it is on the same day. Please advice.


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