Being harassed by wife's side relatives
Gayatri Gayatri
(Querist) 18 September 2015
This query is : Resolved
Hi All,
I request you all to help me with your expertise.
From last 2 months there is cold war going between me and my wife. we are 3 years old couple. ours is a arranged marriage. still we are not blessed with kids. we both are worried about it. inspite of going to many doctors(5 till now) we could not succeed as my wife is having problem with primary infertility. I spent lots of money on this already.
Till now I never man handled my wife (not even slapped). I never demanded money or anything from my in laws too. NEVER I misbehaved with any one. I am post graduate from IIT Institute.
My wife lost her father. Only her mother is there along with 2 married sisters. When ever any cold war or verbal banters happen between me and my wife , my wife's side relatives(Her sisters and their husbands) are flaring it up INTENTIONALLY. On 16th September my mother in law took my wife to a hospital and got one surgery done related to Infertility. I also went to hospital at morning 8 AM. But my wife and her MOTHER hurted me a lot and I lefted hospital immediately with depressed mind. My wifes surgery is done afternoon time. Yesterday on 17th September my wife is discharged and my wife left to her mothers house. After reaching there she called me and said that she wants to stay in her mothers house for 10 days. In recent past my wife developed habit of packing her bag and going to her mothers house and was informing me only at last minute.
After attending my wifes call, I started and went to my inlaw's house. I asked her mother if it is right on her part to take her daughter without even bothering to inform me. Discussions started. Turned in to arguments. All of a sudden my wifes elder sister along with her husband came(Not sure if they planned it before itself). My co brother(my wifes sisters husband) started talking what ever he wants. All of a sudden he started talking legal terms. He started provoking my wife to give complaint to police saying that I have harassed her. He started saying that he has close friends who are working as district judges, police department officials(Even though I dont believe that). and this thing went on.
When my cobrother is talking above all stuff my wife closed her eyes and slept. she did not respond. When my cobrother insisted her to call police station(dial 100) she did not. My cobrother started saying to my wife "If you dont complain I will make your mother complain against your husband". After 30 minutes time I left the place. I am back to my home.
I am really honest with you people. Not even a single line mentioned above is fabricated. I really mentioned the exact facts which has happened.
Could you please tell me how should I approach the situation now ? Is there any problem for me in any way ? Ideally what should I do ? Please advice.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 18 September 2015
What U require now is not a legal solution but good counselling and mediation for both of U.Lack of children could be disturbing but not the end of it.There are many ways and means to lead a happy marital life.
Regarding the attitude of UR inlaws household,I presume it is unwarranted interference,when both U and UR wife have no marital issues.Don't act hastily but involvement of elders of both the sides could solve the problem.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 18 September 2015
query too long.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 19 September 2015
From your query it seems you love your wife very much and forget the love of other relatives to her. Your wife was calm, you should also be calm, forget and cooperate.
It is better she is staying with her parents after surgery, care would be as per their and her satisfaction.
Do not try to dominate or thrust your wishes and become a cooperative and loving husband. Forget any unpleasing attitude of her mother / relative, they also love her.
Legal path is state of helplessness and should be avoided to save your marriage.
